LESSONS LEarned
Joel Brashear
Appalachian Storyteller
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Lessons Learned
This is not a blog on self-help or how to be a better person. I am woefully underqualfied to write that. I have been fortunate enough to be around some very smart folks in my time, and I’ve messed up enough to have learned what not to do in certain situations. And, since I want to make sure I have this in some format that my kids and their kids will have access too, I thought I’d start putting it here.
Share The Credit. Take the Blame.
While in school, I hated group work. All the way through college, every time a teacher or professor would assign a team assignment, I would cringe.
Surround yourself with great people.
Alone, a person may have a bad idea or decide to do something dangerous. And that would hurt the one. But, if they are in a group of similar individuals, he/she can suggest it becomes something they do together and bring down the whole. But the inverse is true as well.
Learn to Cook. And Do your own dishes!
Cooking is one of the most important skills anyone can have. Being able to take some simple ingredients and turn them into something delicious for the people you care about is special.
Write down your goals and revise them often
Putting pen to paper is powerful. It’s permanent, for one. It literally makes a statement. And when you go from having an inkling of a dream in your mind to a concrete goal that you’ve written down on paper, it becomes real.
Roll with the punches
Trust in your instincts and abilities to handle any situation and push on through. Because you never know what the next turn in the path will bring.
Don’t chase the duck, make the duck come to you
Growing up, I had a much younger cousin who was obsessed with baby ducks. She’d chase them all around my Grandparents yard, squealing the entire time with delight and anguish.
Engage in the complexities of Information Systems Theory
location to another, it is fascinating to explore better and stronger channels of transference. Information Systems Theory, or IST, explores how information flows from sender to receiver.
Confidence really is key.
Believing that you can do something is almost as important and putting in the hours of training to make yourself great.
Ask for help when you need it.
There will be moments when you fall. This is not an indication of weakness or inability. It is simply a fact. There will be a wall you cannot climb or a ravine too wide to jump. It takes tremendous strength of character to realize that help is needed and then seek out that aid.
Collect memories, not possessions.
After college and before marriage and kids, I had this little window where I lived with my parents, had a decent job and few bills. I was too immature to know that I should be saving for a down payment on a house or investing for the future. No, I was busy building one of the largest collections of DVD’s in East Kentucky.
Realize that everyone deserves a second chance.
People are going to let you down. Hopefully not often, but it will happen.
MAKE STUFF
I am as un-crafty as you can imagine: can’t paint, can’t draw. When I had a 3D art class in college, I almost burned my hand off using an industrial strength glue gun.
In all situations, Wait and See.
I once heard a story about an old farmer who was barely scraping by. He and his son did all they could to survive on their farm.
Never stop learning. Be Curious about the world!
Learning shouldn’t end once your school days are over. And it should’t be just facts or trivia, but if you want to win the quiz bowl at the corner bar, that would help
Balance your checkbook
Taking care of your finances is so important, but most of us just assume it will take care of itself.
Develop a positive outlook on life by looking for the good in every situation.
The Chinese word for “Crisis” is a combination of “danger” and “opportunity!” Hard times will come; how we handle them is up to us.
If you’re not the lead dog, the view never changes!
Will Ferrell, playing the illustrious racer Ricky Bobby in Talladega Nights once said, “If you ain’t first, you’re last!”
Leave the woodpile higher than you found it.
Giving more than you take is the best way to make sure that you leave the world better than you found it.
Never settle for “fine”
Just as we should never strive for perfection, we should never settle for "Fine" or "good enough."